PSA of the Day
Pinterest; full of beautiful ideas for the DIY bride! Instagram; photos galore of dreamy wedding décor and gowns that can be viewed without getting sucked into comments. Wedding Facebook groups; a plethora of DIY wedding ideas to trade amongst fellow brides-to-be… and a plethora of negativity, rudeness, and bride bashing. Yes, I’m sure this happens in on other platforms, but Facebook seems to be the bridal equivalent of TV’s Sons of Anarchy meets Wipeout with a side of the Food Network’s Chopped.
As a former member of more than 150 wedding themed groups on Facebook, I watched insane drama between complete strangers unfold in comment sections of these groups. Yes, former member. I joined these groups to watch for topics commonly brought up by DIY brides that I could address and advise on via this blog. I’m not even a bride and these groups were STRESSING me out. As of last week, I’m now a member of ONE group (the group I admin that only allows DIY wedding related posts that have to be approved by admin/moderators).
May I ask the bashers and s**t-talkers… what do you get from embarrassing a bride for asking a question she truly doesn’t know the answer to? Does it give you joy to suck the joy out of wedding planning for others, because you don’t agree with their style?
It’s simple:
Don’t agree with the post: keep scrolling
Don’t like their style: keep scrolling
Don’t have helpful insight or advice: keep scrolling
Someone peed in your Cheerios this morning and you’re in a mood: keep scrolling
Post is inappropriate for the group theme but it got approved anyway: keep scrolling
Can’t word your response in a constructive manner: keep scrolling
Not every bride has your taste, style, ideas, help from family, supportive friends, or budget. The TLC show “Four Weddings” wouldn’t exist if every wedding was the same. Please don’t be the reason a bride is in tears, questioning the manner is which she’s planning her big day. If your comment can’t be positive, supportive, or helpful, please move on.
Helping YOU say ‘I-DO’,
Your WedUcator