Though I never intend to, I’m sure this one will ruffle a few feathers. Post one, of many that I will preface with “not everyone is going to agree with me, and that’s okay.”
I’m a stickler for certain wedding manners, etiquette, and protocol. I’ll touch on these hot buttons of mine in future posts (handwritten thank you’s and no B-list invites, to name a few).
The wedding is all about the bride, right? It’s her day, right? Yes, of course… to an extent. A marriage is between two people. It is also the groom’s day (or 2nd bride, groom & groom, etc.). Can we please normalize saying it’s “the couple’s day”, not just the bride’s day? Even if your partner isn’t active in the planning process, you wouldn’t be having this day without a fiancé.
As brides and grooms, you are hosting a wedding and inviting guests. As the host of any party, you are taking on the role of ensuring people have an enjoyable time and feel welcome. Treating your wedding party like employees is not a stellar look. Nor is shaking down guests for extra money after they have already likely brought a gift, possibly paid to travel or stay overnight in a nearby hotel, maybe paid for childcare in order to attend, etc.
Tough situations arise. There are ABSOLUTELY scenarios where you need to put your foot down and be comfortable saying no. But… there is a tactful way to tackle these situations without letting bridezilla make an appearance. Once she’s reared her ugly head, it’s hard to convince those close to you or helping with the wedding planning, that you’re not going to be difficult to work with up until the wedding day. Wedding planners are like the town bartender or hair stylist… we hear it all. We’ve heard the MOH complaining about how bossy the bride is. We’ve heard the MOB tell FOB that she can’t wait until this is over because her daughter had become so unpleasant to be around due to wedding stress. We hear the guests in the buffet line whispering that they are a bit put off my the QR codes posted everywhere at the reception, to collect additional money for a honeymoon.
Stay tuned for TONS of upcoming posts (and be sure to check my TikTok!) for ideas on how to handle the not-so-fun issues that may arise and how to minimize stress during the planning process. Or, have a real sticky situation that you’re dreading having to handle? Overwhelmed with how much there is to do and don’t know how to go about knocking out that to-do list? Schedule your custom workshop and I can help you walk step by step through a few options.
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